'C.O.A.C.H.' – (Control, Observe, Analyze, Create, Help) Part 1
As a Life and Executive Coach myself always beyond than listening and talking, my aim is understanding what isn’t being said collect all the <dots>, connect them and create through them.
A Coach in every interaction and discussion should…
Control - the situation, the relationship and the feelings of the other person (I tend - prefer not to called or define the other person as a client)
Observe – his/her body feelings, reactions, behave, tone, color, sequence of his/ her voice, the context and the content
Analyze – all the previous and the reflection in your mind and knead, through questions which arise in coach’s mind
Create – a defense an interrupt of his/her negative feelings and thoughts and direction
Help – to organize, restore, recreate motivate and to grow
‘In a growth mindset, challenges are exciting rather than threatening. So rather than thinking, oh, I’m going to reveal my weaknesses, you say, wow, here’s a chance to grow.’ Carol Dweck, author and researcher
Through my career and involvement in personal, professional and in artistic level, I have always liked to socialize and connect with people with other interests, different knowledge, polymaths… with a variety of backgrounds which is also help me to interact and connect with people from different cultures.
A Coach is consistently available for what is and what shows up in each moment, confident to perceive what is most important and respond to it authentically. The Coach surrenders to the flow and momentum created in the reciprocal field between client and coach that occurs through the process of “pure” coaching.
For a coach is essential to have developed also a high level of creativity. Why?
To create motivation, to create relationships, to create opportunities, to create a new view of our world, etc...to have a diverse mindset and culture with a pluralism of knowledge.
He/she must label other person emotions, frame his/her thoughts and try to reframe them.
Elements of a successful coach…
· He/she knows how to connect with the people, society and our world.
· Deepened in everything and he/she is flexible.
· Function beyond the traditional ways.
· Convey meanings, in non obvious and captivating ways, as opposed to giving simple directives and making straightforward declarations of fact.
· He/she present a stylistic distinctiveness that is an honest expression of his/her individuality and personal beliefs.
· He/she offer complex and challenging information that stimulates intellectual effort and imaginative contemplation.
· Provide emotionally rewarding experiences that are shared among members of a group, promoting stronger bonds and fostering personal fulfillment.
· He/she Inspires, is consistent, creative, unique, passionate, and knows how to engage.
· Cultivating uncertainty and alternative ideas, preserving the questions.
· Portraying paradoxes and has the ability to go deeper.
· Integrating whole-brain – mindfulness generative thinking.
· Connect emotionally with literally.
· Creating and connecting emotional with logical stories.
· He/she has colorful personality and background.
· Knows how to explore, how to express, how to experiment and how to execute his/her ideas.
· Produce cohesive patterns by selecting, rejecting, and relating the various components available to him/her and to express his/her vision.
· Recognize the central role of imagination and individual performance.
· His/her mind, making effective syntheses.
· His/her personal prejudice, belief, tradition, and temperament, build and destroyed every time he/she makes rearrangements of his/her possibilities.
· Compromise between the vision he/she has and the limits are available.
· Learn from critiques of success and failure.
· He/she has the desire to communicate his/her purpose.
· They try to transform others by setting an example.
· Create space for shared experiences.
· They can change our lives virtually, having the ability to come up with ideas to solve problems and exploit opportunities.
According to Chris Voss, mirroring is most effective when you repeat one, two, or three words from the last words your counterpart has spoken. It's especially effective in defusing anger or hostility.
Voss calls this tactic "trust-based influence." If you want another person to say 'yes' to your idea, you must first gain their trust. Once they trust you, you'll be far more influential and more likely to strike a deal that makes both of you happy.
And Trust which is requires comfort for the other person and willingness to admit his/her mistakes, weaknesses or need for help. When there is no trust, there is fear of conflict - which is the next dysfunction. Without trust, people don't engage in productive conversation. Trust requires that you approach situations with sincerity, kindness and openness.
A Great Coach drawing in others minds and knows how to connect, think progression, not perfection. Think small improvements to create a major improvement.
End of Part 1 and thank you for reading my article.No matter what medium you use on interpersonal connections, you
